For those who know me well, it will be no shock to hear that I’m a bit of a book junkie. I am a seeker of knowledge, a deep thinker and a philosopher of life. I’m forever curious about why…..? I never seem to be able to stop and remain content with just one answer to that question. There is always some other perspective to gain, idea to consider, controversy to argue or agree with – what can I say….it’s just who I am. And if you follow this blog, you’ll know I recently turned 30. It was a birthday that rocked me to the core. I was called to consider many so called truths and acknowledge, recognize and release those things, regardless of their merit, that were no longer working for me in my life.
Below I’ve made a list of 30 of my most memorable reads, books and authors who presented ideas and ideals that shaped the course of my life. And below that you’ll find a list of the lessons I’ve learned so far. I hope you enjoy – and I welcome your comments, your reading lists, your lessons and of course any questions or comments that you wish to add. After all…it’s better together!
- Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltx
- The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles
- Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
- You Were Born Rich by Bob Proctor
- As a Man Thinketh by James Allen
- The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
- The Success Principles by Jack Canfield
- Law of Attraction by Michael Losier
- The 4 Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss
- The Portable Coach by Thomas Leonard
- Purple Cow by Seth Godin
- The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist
- Women Food and God by Geneen Roth
- The EMyth by Michael Gerber
- Strengths Finder by Tom Rath
- The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren
- The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell
- Blink by Malcolm Gladwell
- The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle
- A New Earth by Eckart Tolle
- The One Minute Millionaire by Mark Victor Hansen & Robert G. Allen
- Walk the Talk by Erick Harvey and Steve Ventura
- Loyalty to Your Soul by H. Ronald Hulnick & Mary R. Hulnick
- The Unmistakable Touch of Grace by Cheryl Richardson
- Crazy Sexy Diet by Kris Carr
- Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki
- The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
- The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma
- Ask Your Guides by Sonia Choquette
- The Right to Write by Julia Cameron
- Tell the truth
Every time you change or alter the truth, you send a strong message to yourself that says something like “I’m not good enough”. It’s a misconception most of us humans are walking around with. The funny thing is, when you start telling the blunt, honest truth – you’ll notice that people don’t actually blow up in front of you (like you thought they might), in fact there is rarely much of a reaction at all. Try it – you’ll probably surprise yourself. Don’t add a zero or take off a stone to make whatever you’re saying sound better. YOU are amazing just the way you are.
- You’re on your own but you’re not alone
This may seem like kind of a contradiction, but let me explain. First of all – you’re on your own – what I mean is that your life is really up to you. Shitty childhoods, abuse, poor treatment – nothing to be taken lightly – it DID shape who you are, but the real question you need to ask yourself is ‘what am I going to do about it now?’. No one is going to make your decisions, heal your heart, train your body, feed your mind or take the steps – it’s up to you. If you want it, don’t want it, need it, desire it – get busy missy (or mister) because no one can live your life for you. BUT, you’re not alone. Reach out – many have gone before us for the purpose to blaze the trail, speak from experience, provide guidance and wisdom and insight for the taking- and as for your inner world – you are never alone there either. You have an amazing inner guidance system, angels helping you navigate your path, a guardian angel and many many more spirit guides who are there simply waiting for you to call on them for support, wisdom, reassurance, love and light as you walk down the journey of your life.
- Take Responsibility for YOUR life
If you are willing to take 100% responsibility for every single moment of your life – even the ones that you don’t understand, weren’t your fault and that you perceivably had no control over – your life will dramatically change for the better. There are nuggets of gold even in the darkest of moments and even being a victim of the most horrific of treatments gives you an opportunity to experience grace at the deepest level.
- Have Faith
I’m not religious but my spiritual faith is stronger now than it’s ever been. I have experienced moments of profound insight and awareness by opening myself up to the infinite power of faith. With faith all things are possible and purposeful. Faith gives you courage when you’re scared and light when you’re lost.
- Your mind is a powerful tool
Do not take your mind for granted – it is powerful beyond measure. (60,000 thoughts a day – and this is a ‘scientific guess’ at best.) And your mind is not just your brain, not just your thoughts, not just your emotions, not just your cells – it is all of that combined and more. It’s nothing to be taken lightly, and nor should it be taken for granted or left to run itself. You must concede to it’s power, be humbled by it’s abilities and do your best to work with it and it’s great power to support you in reaching your highest potential in this lifetime.
- Beliefs are the root of your manifestations
Ever wonder what’s really creating your reality – look no further than your deep seeded beliefs. What you believe is what you see, whether it’s really there or not. The trick is to learn about how and when beliefs are impregnated in to your system, how to identify when a belief is limiting your development and no longer serving you, how to let go of old beliefs and upload new and improved beliefs in order to continue to advance and grow in your life. (Check out Bruce Lipton’s book & website: The Biology of Belief for more info).
- Thoughts do become things
I can remember a time when my ego driven cynical thoughts balked at this simple, yet profound statement, however, I can assure you – these words are real. Don’t take the words you use or the thoughts you choose lightly or for granted. You are manifesting your own destiny every moment of your life – make certain you are choosing wisely.
- You won’t always know how
It would be nice to see a well laid out blueprint for your life, equipped with perfectly timed rest stops, moments of glorious celebration, when the challenges were to come and the knowing that you will get through them and come out the other side. However, this is simply not LIFE. You won’t always know how things are going to unfold or how you are going to pay rent this month, or how you will reach your goals. But in the end, the how is the least relevant of all of the parts. Instead I suggest you stay focussed on WHAT and WHY – the HOW shows up each and every time.
- Be 100% the authentic YOU
Lord knows I learned this the hard way – and this lesson alone had a lot to do with my 29th year and why it was such a struggle. My whole life, I’ve made decisions based on how it would impact those around me. I did things to achieve others approval, acceptance and love. I didn’t really know what I wanted – because I’d never really asked that question. The question I’d really been asking was- what can I do that will please everyone? WRONG question. You are not doing yourself or anyone else any favours by living to please others. You’re never happy and therefore they’re never really happy either. Take a stand, put yourself first, find the TRUE, the REAL you – polish off that beautiful gemstone and let it shine out for the world to see. NO ONE could ever be you, so I suggest you be.
- Don’t go as often & don’t stay as long
Letting friends go and acknowledging when family is holding you back will likely (if you’re anything like me) be some of the hardest moments of your life. I’m loyal to my core and sometimes I’ve stayed a little too long at the party. I remember voicing this challenge to one of my first coaches, Bob Proctor and he gave me this great nugget of advice. You don’t have to cut people off at the knees (or throw out the baby with the bathwater) but if relationships are no longer serving you – begin the weening process sooner than later. Sometimes they come around, but don’t wait around for that to happen. Instead – don’t go as often & don’t stay as long:)