Is Your Life’s Alarm Clock Going Off?
Suffering.
The Soul’s version of your morning alarm clock.
Sometimes greeted with open enthusiasm and excitement.
Sometimes pushed back down; a metaphoric “snooze button”.
Don’t worry – it will go off again.
Your resistance to ‘waking up’ is the cause of your suffering symptoms.
Are you afraid? Of change? I get that.
What if I guaranteed that it would be better? Does that make it easier to surrender?
Cuz I promise you, it WILL be better.
Better than you could have ever imagined.
Go ahead.
Release yourself from the suffering.
Surrender to the call.
It’s time for you to wake up.
Meditation = Healing & Healing = Miracles
I’m often asked “how do you meditate?”. It’s an interesting question since for me meditating has much more to do with being than doing. When I meditate, I move from the role of ‘doer’ to the role of observer. I release the constant ‘thoughting’ (the never ending habitual thoughts that float on and off of the screen of my mind) and embrace the awareness of noticing. I adopt a mantra that says: isn’t that interesting.
I ask questions and wait patiently to see who or what will show up in the form of an answer.
I request signs from the etheric realm.
I offer an energetic emission to the universe.
I journey to places that offer the insight, awareness and understanding that I crave.
The result is healing.
It doesn’t matter if I’m sitting on my mediation pillow, walking in nature, writing in my journal or soaking in an epson salt bath – mediation = healing. And in this context, healing means to restore my health. To me, meditation is spending time being here now, in the present moment, in a state of awareness. This time spent restores my natural state of health. As I release the habitual thoughts of worry and stress about the future and the past and as I let down the barriers of protection I’ve built up against the outside world - I reconnect. I reconnect with my most natural, pure and true self. I emerge with a new and profound perspective. From this natural, healthy state, inspiration comes, creation begins, decisions crystalize and opportunities arise.
I recently announced that I would be leading guided walking meditations on the beautiful forest paths in Stanley Park. I called this experience: Heart Healing. I called it this because I want to provide a space where we can restore the natural health of our heart, and release from there the most authentic offering of ourselves.
Healing is reconnecting the umbilical chord that connects you to the source from which divine energy flows.
From that connection miracles happen, and I don’t know about you, but I like miracles:)
Here’s to happy, healthy hearts & lots of miracles.
With love,
Heather
To Register: http://www.eventbrite.com/event/2878227857
My Coming Out Party
I’m in the process of a rebrand, the launch of a new website and the creation of a new coaching program. That’s biz speak for…I’m opening my kimono and coming out to the world.
The truth is, I’ve unlocked my heart, unleashed my soul and for the first time in my life, am baring it all – the truth, my whole truth, nothing but the truth.
The depth of vulnerability is oceanic. (Kudos to Danielle Laporte for that descriptive word.) And though I’ve always thought of myself as confident, what I’ve come to know is that I’ve been confident when I’ve been sure that I’d be accepted. In the case of this re-birth, acceptance is far from a guarantee.
The good news is that there is just no other way. The very thought of continuing a double life with acceptable conversations about profit models and sales funnels by day while I secretly sneak off to my meditation pillow and converse with my angel guides at night, is absolutely unpalatable. Can’t do it. No way.
I’ve shrugged away from ‘going live’ with excuse after excuse. And though the website is still a ways away as I diligently craft a deep understanding of my customer, their needs, their challenges, their belief systems, their way of thinking and acting – it was time to let that which I could, out of the closet.
Against my perfectionistic streak I committed that I was going to put it out there, today, right when I got home. And I did.
Here’s the first of many labours of love, born from my heart to yours. (Click the link below:)
With reckless abandon, huge love, and deep gratitude,
Heather
What I learned when I gave a speech online: An ‘Aha’ for A webinar newbie
I’ve always wanted to work on television. Still hold that vision. Still set that intention.
The true intention sounds more like “spread my message to as many people as whom want to receive it; where it will be of the highest good”,
but the ‘human’, ‘ego’ side of me would TOTALLY love that to be expressed in my life as, well…me being on TV.
Anyway…
Sitting in front of my computer, wearing pyjama bottoms… I did a speaking gig online tonight.
Now I know what you might be thinking…”yesterday’s news”, but SERIOUSLY, in 4 1/2 years of working as a speaker, I have never delivered a speech via the internet before. (I’ve talked in to my webcam before & recorded it, but this was different.)
The whole thing was an eyeopener for me.
When it was all done, we were signed off & the last tweet was tweeted, I sat back and had an AHA moment. I got a strong message. It was something like this…
“Heather, you can do what you already do (Speaker/Teacher), online and guess what…:
You don’t have to leave your house.
You can wear pyjama bottoms and still maintain your ‘street cred’.
Some people actually see more value & would be willing to pay more to come to a webinar & hear what you have to say, then to have to come in from out of town to get to a live event.
You’d be able to share real time information (website links, supporting documents, suggested reads etc.) INSTANTLY with your audience.
You can be available to ANY market that has access to an internet connection or telephone & wants to hear you speak.
*Um…..let’s just pause here, HEATHER, did you hear that last one??
Yep, u-huh I got it. Aha moment had. Totally get it got it. Thank you Life! (LessonsInF$=**%Everything).
Growth feels good.
Full steam ahead.
#Yay2012
Lots of Love,
Heather
Huge gratitude and love to Christine Pilkington & @EMomNowVan for being the angel on earth who delivered this opportunity for growth to me.
Life Lessons: Truth Telling
Truth trumps.
When you tell the truth, you honour the purest most authentic part of yourself. And when you do that, divine miracles rain over your life. You see more clearly. Doors open more easily. Communication becomes more focussed. Actions become more obvious. Results are in alignment. Life is good.
But telling the truth, though simple, is certainly not always easy.
(It gets easier the more you do it)
In my experience the first thing that I notice when I’m out of integrity (not telling the truth) is my feelings (my mood). I’ll wake up in the morning feeling a heaviness. My first defence: logic. I’ll think…”why do I feel like this…oh yeah, I went to be so late, I’m probably just tired…”. But it’s not a lack of sleep. Depending on how long it takes me to recognize that my feelings (state of vibration) are out of alignment because something I’m doing is out of integrity for me – the next step is always awareness.
Suddenly in one flash across my mind, I’ll realize exactly what it is that’s out of whack. It will be obvious. Starring me right in the eyes, steady as can be, will be the truth, my truth.
Once you know the truth, at least in my case, there’s usually one last piece of heavy lifting to do: tell the truth. It would be nice for my self-realizations and personal development to exist in a vacuum, but, let’s face it – life usually involves other people.
A few things I’ve learned about telling others the truth:
- Do it quickly. As soon as you realize/discover/remember the truth – pick up the phone, drive to their house, set up the meeting – whatever it takes – tell those who need to know….FAST.
- Keep it short. Likely you’ve gone through hell as you’ve worked through your own discomfort, tried to figure out what was wrong, stumbled in to the truth and there’s likely a lot of ‘story’ involved. That story is for you, not them. They need and deserve to know the truth. Long winded, drawn out stories might make you feel better, but they’re not making it any easier on the person hearing the truth.
- When you perceive that the conversation is going to be a difficult one for you you have, write it as a letter first. Call out through the ether, to their higher self. This is a time when you can go in to a long story telling explanation. Set the cosmos in motion for the moment when you’ll actually deliver the news. (The letter is not to replace you speaking with them, but instead to set the wheels in motion and give you a chance to gather your thoughts and energetically start the process.)
- Give them time to process. Sometimes (in fact most times) you’ll find that the person you’re telling already knew or at least had an inkling that this was coming and will be totally fine with your truth telling. Sometimes though it will catch them off guard and they may react emotionally (depending on what kind of truth we’re talking about.) Give them space and let them work through this new information.
I believe that what’s right for you is right for everyone. The universe, the planet, and all of us on it are all interconnected in an etheric web. Telling the truth and remaining authentic to your core, is the greatest offering you can make. It’s your part in the whole.
There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting. – Buddha
Productivity is equal to Planting
Gardeners do not plant and harvest carrots on the same day.
And productivity does not exist in a vacuum.
Days of rejuvenation, imagination and musings, followed by planting and tending to seeds, all important steps in a product emerging.
Gestation does not have to be long, but it does indeed take place.
Breathe, surrender, and sink in to the energy that is faith.
Not everyday produces.
But everyday matters.
2012 – is it YOUR year?
There’s no question that a New Year feels like a new beginning. It’s another chance to change. So what’s with that…why do we so desire to change? The simple answer is that we’re not happy and furthermore we’ve developed a deep belief that if we changed x,y,z, and had different results, well then we’d be happy. True?
What I’ve discovered is that happiness in fact is a feeling that is not a result of outside circumstances, but instead a result of your inner vibration – a feeling generated from within you. We’ve been sold a bill of goods in thinking that if we could just lose 10 lbs, make an extra $10K, move our home, change jobs, break up with our mate, get together with a mate – you name it, if we change the outside world – we’ll feel better – we’ll be happy.
But let’s get real – this doesn’t work. Every year you make changes, your outside world looks different – but let me ask you – are you content and happy??? Or do you still long for something, some thing ‘out there’ that is the holy grail of happiness? Do you still wish and dream and imagine a life that is in some way ‘better’, more fulfilling, more exciting?
I bet you do.
We live in a dynamic universe where change is constant. The world is constantly changing and within it, we are constantly changing. The key is to keep moving, to keep progressing. We are always going to want to further expand ourselves and our lives. But the little nugget of truth that you might not know is that feeling content and happy is not dependent totally on growing, and changing with the way of the world. Instead, it’s reverse. Your ability to grow and change is directly affected by the way you feel.
When you feel small, powerless, frustrated, angry, sad – it’s like having a kink in the hose – you lack the power of the flow. When you feel expansive and powerful, it’s like working with a fire hose of energy – it’s abundant.
The way you feel directly affects the power, or lack of power in your ‘hose’ and your hose is the life force energy you will draw on to make change in your life. If all you’ve got is a little dribble, here and there, your life changes and growth will be representative of that – small, sporadic, seemingly insignificant. However, if your access to the life force energy within you, is abundant force, flowing at an incredible pace – your life changes and growth will be BIG, bold and bountiful.
The secret is not to change so that you will be happy, the secret is to be happy so that you will change. And change isn’t even the right word. The true idea is to attain and maintain an inner state of vibration (a feeling) that allows you to rise up to the truth of your life, to connect with your birthright – abundant living with a heart wide open.
If you’re ready for BIG changes in 2012, you’ve got some inner work to do. And inner work is the name of my game. If you want to dig in, feel good, rise up and live your life with an open heart – let’s connect. It’s time, you’re ready.
Drop me a note: heather@heatherwhite.ca and let’s get started TODAY!
Happy New Year!
xo
Dropping Deadlines & Digging Deeper
I’ve been ‘writing a book’ for four years. And when I say ‘writing’ I’m not kidding around. I have 3 different outlines, notebooks FULL of pros, chapters complete, ideas mapped out – literally tens of thousands of words ready to go…. (and that’s not including the 300 blog posts, or 20+articles I’ve written for online & print magazines).
And I could go to the place where this is a negative result, as in I haven’t been ‘disciplined’ enough to bring it to fruition, to finish the book, shop for an agent, make the decision between self publishing or traditional.
However, I believe there’s a divine order to everything in life and as much as we’d love to ‘know’ or be in ‘control’ of that order, I just don’t think we are. Sometimes we have to surrender, let go, trust and see what happens.
I think our primary job is to feel good, to channel good vibrations through our minds and bodies and most importantly, to CREATE.
Julia Cameron has been one of my greatest mentors when it comes to creating and writing. It was Julia who first introduced me to the idea that I would be far better served to write, simply for the love of writing, than to write with the end goal of a published book in mind. And though this may sound frivolous to some, let me assure you that to the creative process, this attitude opens a door to a deeper, more enriched experience. In fact, I write a lot of the time knowing that no one will ever see the work. (I go as far as destroying these pages.) For me, writing is sacred, it’s a meeting with the divine, a conversation with the wisest part of myself, a connection with my soul.
There’s no question that I will have a published book sometime in this lifetime. But for now, I’ve let go of the timeline; I have no deadline. This new sense of freedom I’ve offered myself seems to have opened yet another layer for me and I’m writing now more than I ever have.
If you’re feeling trapped by trying to control the timeline of your life, if you’ve promised yourself that you’re going to ‘get it done’ by a certain date, ask yourself: is it the end result that matters most to you, or the feeling you generate by way of creating as you go?
What I’ve found is that by letting go, I FEEL more grounded, more connected and more creative than ever – and I’m curious to see where this new way takes me.
In the meantime, to keep the disciplined part of myself appeased, I’m working through Danielle Laporte & Linda Siversten’s Your Big Beautiful Book Plan. This is an absolute STELLAR read with practical action steps, not to mention it’s chalk full of valuable, real life examples of others who have gone before, blazing the trail for us to follow. Did I mention, it includes REAL book proposals that landed REAL publishing deals!!!
Happy Writing! Happy Creating! Happy Feeling!
p.s. If you want to get your haute little hands on a copy of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan – click on the banner link down below on the sidebar to be taken to their page. And YES I am getting paid to recommend and spread the love of these two writing goddesses. xo
Potty mouth, Shadows and Transformations
About a month ago I received the below email from a disgruntled reader…
I have to say that the language you use on your site is anything but professional. A professional does not casually say or write f***, sh** or sh***y in conversation with or on a site professing to give advice to total strangers.
What immediately struck me was that I was not upset in any way by this email. I had no reaction, I was neutral. (Back it up 18 months – 2 years ago and this note would have flatlined me for days, maybe even weeks.)
When you have an emotional reaction to someone else’s opinion of you, it’s because there’s a part of you that agrees with them – a matching piece living within you.
Back in the day (ha! a couple years ago) I would have been affected by this comment because I wasn’t solid in my own belief that I was worthy of the title ‘professional advice giver’ (is that a title?). This comment would have triggered the matching piece within me that questioned whether I was good enough, whether I was capable, whether I could really be trusted to give people advice that would affect the trajectory of their life.
Specifically, I remember one time after delivering a speech I received the ‘feedback form’. 99% of the responses were positive. Heather was fantastic, she has so much energy, very inspiring, great advice, succinct and to the point, loved it….
then at the bottom there was one comment that I’ll never forget…
Young presenter style certainly evident.
This comment took me out. I swore to myself that I’d never speak again.
After I peeled myself of the floor I went to see my Life Coach (my psychic surgeon)…
and that comment morphed in to one of the greatest gifts of my life. With the help of my coach I saw that this was an opportunity for me to address a shadow; a matching piece that lived within me that said: I’m too young to do this work. A piece that was mirrored to me on the feedback form.
Other people play their role, to mirror for us the dark nooks and crannies that live within us. These shadows are the doorways for our greatest transformations. Without others we might never have known the door was even there.
I know in my heart that the deep work I did then changed the fabric of my being and hence the neutral peace inside of me when I read the comment on my blog about my potty mouth. I no longer question my worthiness in this role of ‘professional advice giver’. I know that the service I provide is of tremendous value for those whom it’s a fit for. And for those who don’t fit in this tribe – hey – they can go…well you know…f-off:)
Your reaction to the circumstances in your life is a gift – it will give you all kinds of information and shine a light on the shadows of yourself. Once you’re aware of those dark corners, you can learn from them, transform them and transcend them.
With love,
Heather
Chattin it up with Spirit Junkie Gabrielle Bernstein
Gabrielle Bernstein stopped by to chat with me on her recent visit to Vancouver. Her and I share a passion for spirituality, and tapping in to our inner guidance, remembering that we are not alone to make all the tough decisions in our life. We have access to the voice of our intuition and we have choice, in every moment. Thanks again Gabby for your wisdom, grace and kindness!!! xoxo
A HUGE thank you to Alice Mathieson & Life and Times for the filming & producing of this video!!!
