I teach self-love. Permission. Compassion.

Hmm….I’m sure you can see where this is going.

I’m shocked at times when I observe my inner bully. She’s nasty and mean. It’s rare, however, that I actually catch her in the act. I usually only know she’s been by when I notice my low energy, and the subtle layer of sadness that lingers on my breath. I remember the first time I caught her in the act though.

I was playing golf with my bf and 3 of his buddies. I was on the tee of a par 3 and there was a back-up on the hole so there was also a group of 4 guys waiting for us to hit. (Read: 7 dude golfers watching my tee shot). So, I chunked it, and it dribbled off the tee box and in to the water hazard 30  feet out. (Read: VERY poor shot) I was humiliated, needless to say.

On the next tee I went to the washroom and it was in that little outdoor cubby hole that I caught her, my inner bully, right in the act.

“You’ll never be good at golf”  I observed something inside my head say….there she was, crystal clear. Her tone icy and harsh.

I remember being in shock about what I’d heard, I ran home to Eckhart Tolle to look up ‘becoming the observer’. Who was that? Where did that voice come from? Why was she so harsh and mean? Is she….me?

Since then I’ve made a lot more peace with this part of myself. She’s an aspect of me, but she’s not me. She comes out when vulnerability is present and she exhausts her best efforts to bully me back to the safety zone. Reason being, she’s straight up afraid and legitimately so. She’s stuck back in the times when vulnerability really did mean: game over. She’s very attached to the idea that my reputation is in direct proportion to my self-worth. It’s all good. I love her. I love her because I understand her. I see where she’s coming from.

Perpective is such an interesting thing. What you see is so dependent on the point of view you’re looking at it from.

Take a look at your life from a different point of view and what you’ll see is a different life.

With love,

Heather

As adults I don’t think we connect with that state of contentment very often, and when we do, we certainly don’t stay there long. It’s a true state of being. It’s the feeling when you first wake up, before that initial thought enters your mind. The moment when you first sink in to a bath, before the thought. That moment when you embrace in a genuine heart to heart hug, before the thought…

That moment, before the thought….how often do you sink in to that space? How long do you stay?

Life is really not about the outside world. We’re so conditioned, to look outside for the answer(s) to the question – who am I? The ironic thing is that the whole time we “know” who we are. Because we simply ARE. Beyond all the words that we ‘think’ ‘should’ come after “I am” there is a presence, an awareness, an essence.

Our need to constantly define in a tangible and finite way – who we are – is one of the greatest wastes of our energy. We will never be defined – we are infinite beyond definition, beyond words. We are – that’s it.

The goal is not in acquisition or achievement. The goal is maintaining a state of internal vibration. But we’ve been duped. We’ve got ourselves convinced that we ‘know’ based on what we ‘think’ we ‘need’ to be happy, in other words maintain a positive vibe. But it’s this belief that is like heroine, putting our souls to sleep and waking our egoic mind. We’re convinced that we’re pursuing happiness, but in our pursuit what we’ve actually done is created a life – a state of vibration – that can never be happy. Because quite simply, we’re ‘looking’ for it in the wrong place. Happiness lives inside. It comes from the awareness of who we are.

It’s time to journey within. It’s inside your heart that you’ll find everything you’re looking for.

As a teacher I am filled with joy when I’m in the presence of a student. From my little brother, to my clients, to my readers, to my friends. Anytime someone asks me a question – I come alive.

However, I have come to know that a teacher is nothing more than a guide. A guide that will say just the right thing, recommend just the right book, point you in the direction of just the right thing that you need…

to connect to your inner journey.

If you really want to know your answers to your questions – go within. Within yourself are all the answers to every question you’ll ever have.

Is it easy to go within? Not in my experience.

But it is simple.

Don’t worry, there’s no rush. When you’re ready, you’ll know and you’ll start to do the work.

The work:

Quieting your mind.
Detaching yourself from the results of your desires.
Taking inspired action steps.

And when all else fails. When you’re lost in the mist. Just go back to this:

Be Here Now.

It’s full of savvy business (and life) advice. It’s got moxie and swag dripped all over the pages. It’s bold. It’s beautiful – just like her.

But aside from all that – it’s one big ass PERMISSION SLIP.

Permission to be yourself.

Permission to say no. Or to say yes.

Permission to want what you want.

Deep exhalations will be a moment by moment experience as you flip through the pages of this Firestarter. You’ll rejoice in aha’s and gain power for your un-uh’s.

And here’s the greatest part of all this. I get a chance to interview the lady herself coming up on May8th. June 5th. BLOCK your calendars 9:30-10:30 am PST for what is sure to be a HOT conversation via LIVE Webscast. (Firefighters will be on hand!)

We just booked the interview yesterday, so the copy isn’t even up yet. YOU, my friend, are the first to know. 

You’re on the mailing list right? (See up there in the top right hand corner.) If you’re not, sign up! Details will be released ASAP. I don’t want you to miss this.

Lots of love!!

Heather

If you’re ready for mojo to meet moxie – a mastermind group might be just what you’re looking for.

Who’s this for:

• Energized, enthusiastic open minds looking for some synergistic success
• Those willing to ‘do the work’; you know, walk the talk kinda peeps

I’ve been asked countless times about facilitating a Mastermind Group and I have heard the call. This, ladies and gents, is the response.

I’m going to run 2 groups starting in early May. Looks more like early June. We’re working hard behind the scenes to create an incredible experience. Stay tuned:)

One LIVE in Vancouver for all my local peeps.

One via Teleconference for my tribe outside the Lower Mainland. (Or if you just don’t feel like driving in to town:)

My intention is hold the space for some major magic to transpire. I’ll be there to facilitate, throw my two bits in where I can add value, and cheerlead you right through to the finish line of your next big leap.

Each participant, in addition to the Mastermind Group will receive an hour of one-on-one coaching from yours truly, before the Mastermind begins and after we’ve wrapped.

Are you in?

We’re in the process of finalizing the details before we officially release it. And by the way, there’s only 16 spots. (8 per group) If you’re reading this today, it’s because you’re a loyal follower, supporter, soul sibling and tribal member. As a thank you for being there and cheering me along on my journey – you’re getting first dibs. If you’re intrigued, interested, want to have the first right of refusal…..

Make sure you SUBSCRIBE at the top right of this page with your name and email address.

The announcement is coming next week. Times, dates and of course appreciation exchange (price) will all be released. I want you to be there! That is, of course, if you do.

See you on the other side…

With love,

Heather

Ok, so you’ve lied right?

No?

Never?

I cannot tell you how much it cracks my Ego deeply open, the guts spill out over the side & my stomach wretches in agony saying this, but….

I’ve lied.

Holy fuckin shitballs I cannot believe I just wrote those words, and now they’re out there and the world knows; I might be shunned from society for life and die as a recluse on the banks of a remote Island.

There, I said it.

I cannot say that I know for sure that ‘I’m not alone in this one’.  Because the only point in a relationship when you hear the ‘you’re not alone’, ‘me too’ responses, is when you open the door. And I’ve never, ever (I don’t even want to right now) opened this door.

So, I guess I’m gonna find out…

My lies come out of my mouth typically in the form of under or over play. I add a zero, take off a zero, exaggerate, hide. Maybe spin it a little this way or that – makes it easier to say that way.

So maybe I shouldn’t be so hard on myself right?

They’re only ‘white’ lies.

And compared to years past, they are so infrequent.

Maybe I should let myself off the hook?

Dont’ bother posting this Heather, see, it’s not a big deal. White lies that you barely ever tell.

What I’ve realized is that lies aren’t black or white. They’re lies.

And I feel like shit when I tell them.

And in the end it’s the feeling like shit that is my suffering.

And I DO NOT WANT to suffer. I don’t like the FEELING of SUFFERING.

Because what if I DIE today?

I don’t want to die suffering because I lied, and subsequently lived in a prison of fear and shame, worrying about whether anyone would find out, and worse, if they did, would they still love me?

Just tell the truth.

What I’ve learned is that having truth and integrity as the highest value in my life, doesn’t mean I’ll be perfect. It means that when I live outside of that value, I suffer. I suffer, not because I am bad or need to be punished. I suffer because my soul is guiding my journey by way of my feelings.

And when I feel like shit, it’s cuz I’m going the WRONG way.

Tuesday morning I woke up to an old feeling. It was the day of a speaking gig, but I hadn’t had this anxiety visitor for a while. At first I tried to ignore it, you know cuz I’m all evolved now…ha!

A few minutes later, after I got over myself I was reminded of watching Oprah a few years ago admitting that the second she had the thought “I’ve got this weight thing licked”, she gained 40 pounds.

The same was true for me that morning.

Truth: I was scared. And I’m evolving…I’m not evolved.

The part of me that wants to stay safe was trying desperately to stop or at least stall this leap I had signed up to take.

The manifestation was this non-stop voice in my head…

First it tried the bully approach saying things like, “you just learned this yourself, you’re not ready to teach other people”, “there’s going to be people in the room who know WAY more than you; what if they call you out?”.

When that didn’t work it became more subtle, “They’ll understand if you pull out. It’s a safe and nurturing community – they won’t hold it against you.”

All day long, on and on and on.

Luckily I was busy in the morning working on an exciting project with a dear friend. Afterwords we went for lunch and although I could feel the knot in my stomach, my mind was preoccupied and therefore the suffering was manageable. But when she dropped me off at my car and I jumped in a shut the door behind me, my fear sat up in the back seat like a car jacker. Shit!

I sat there for a moment. I didn’t panic. I didn’t scream or struggle. I just said…FINE…you win; I’m scared, I don’t know what’s going to happen, I don’t know what they will think, I don’t even know what I’m going to say.

And in that very moment, that car jacker released the grip it had on my throat, opened the back door, got out and ran away.

In that same moment in the peace and quiet of my car a wave of angelic, white light emerged. It was as if I had opened the door for the support, the love, and the light to come in.

What had changed?

At the time I didn’t know, nor did I care; I was just so relieved to have that looming threat, that dark heaviness disappear.

In retrospect I see exactly what shifted. In that moment, in the car with my fear, I told the truth. I hadn’t even realized the pressure I had been putting on myself up until that very moment. The pressure to ‘say the right thing’, ‘be smart, and wise’, ‘be inspiring’ and ‘change peoples lives’. In that moment I let all of that go. That level of responsibility is too much. It weighs me down.

I drove away and the clouds parted. (Literally!) I was lighter, and brighter.

The task ahead was simple again. Show up and tell the truth.

And that is what I did.

Edge crossed.

This particular day, however, she said something else that created a trigger; something that ruffled my feathers. She spoke about being tired of Life Coaches in their 20′s coaching people in their 40′s.

I can see her point if we’re talking about linear life experience and progression, since at 20, you certainly have not faced certain things that an additional 20 years has seen. I can see her point if you’re claiming to have knowledge that you don’t, or are claiming to help in areas that you can’t. I can see her point if we consider this lifetime to be the only experience from which we draw, but of course I don’t believe that. I believe in the karmic wheel, past lives and the never ending journey of the soul. I believe in our ability to connect with the wisdom of the cosmos and directly with consciousness; with source.

In addition, we never know how long we’re here in this lifetime and I for one will not accept imposed belief systems about the ‘right’ age or ‘wrong’ age at which you’re ‘ready’ to share your knowledge, your wisdom, your experience etc.

When you’re called, you’re called….

And we’ve all been called.

Let go of any restriction, any imposed belief you have about being ‘ready’. Because you were born ready.

Do you struggle with emotion?

What about emoting?

If you do, you’re not alone.

Here’s the video of Cheryl Richardson demonstrating Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique).

Rage on the Page

Take out some blank paper, and set aside some private time and space where you can be alone and safe. Drum up all the feelings towards the situation or person that has triggered rage in you. Think about the mistreatment, judgement etc. Once you’ve got the emotion flowing, start writing. Go crazy on the page. Swear, be mean, say things on paper that you’d likely never say out loud. (Don’t fake it, or force it, just your real, raw emotion.) Keep going until the point in time where you suddenly don’t ‘feel’ that anger, frustration or rage any longer. Trust me, it will come. There is no timeline, no rules and only one goal/objective: rid your system, your body, your mind, your heart, your aura of these negative emotions. Once you’re done, shred, burn or tear up the pages. Then take an epsom salt bath or shower and visualize yourself washing away any last bits of this energy. Dry off and declare out loud: this process is complete.

Your turn…

I want to hear from you. What awesome tools, techniques or processes do you use to let emotion out of your system??

Do you have a question or a comment? Call or write me anytime. I am here to support you in rising up energetically in your life and I know no better way to do that than by letting go of heavy energy that’s holding you back.

Lots of love,

Heather

Because you’ll see what you believe is there.

Are you sure that it’s really there?

How do you know?

Ditch your assumptions.

Stick with the facts.

And if you’re not sure….

Check it out.

Ask the question.