I am a HUGE fan and advocate for Goal Setting and earlier this week I was with a group of trailblazing professional women (and one great male facilitator) talking about defining our vision and setting goals. One thing that came up was the concept of sharing your goals with others – a powerful step in the process of achieving goals. However, it did remind me of a clarification I’ve made to this concept over the years. WHO you share with, is just as important as sharing at all.
You have to consider your audience. If the people in your circle don’t think like you, or don’t have the same kind of loftiness to their life vision, you may be let down by their feedback. I remember when I started to share with my inner circle how I was leaving my corporate job and starting a company with a new business partner I’d only known for 6 months. I was on cloud 9, excited with anticipation, scared and giddy all at the same time. But when I started sharing the news – I was shocked when some of the people who I thought would be the most supportive, were the ones being skeptical, asking me if I’d really thought this through, wouldn’t it be easier to start slowly, didn’t I know we were entering into a recession, this isn’t a good time to start a business, maybe I should keep my day job until I knew for sure that I would be successful. In retrospect, of course I logically understand their fear. They didn’t want to see me go through pain, pain that they believed I was setting myself up for. In my mind, because of the way I think, I didn’t see the same risk on the horizon that they saw. They were not wrong and I was not right (well actually it turns out I was right, but…that’s not the point in this case) we just saw a different picture, we were considering the same ‘idea’ from different perspectives.
Sharing your goals with people who will support you and hold you accountable to doing what it takes to make your dreams come true is a must. Many doors have been opened, introductions made and opportunities presented to, me simply because I shared what I was doing, where I was going and what help I needed. My only caution would be to consider the questions: Do they think like me? Do they dream big like me? Can they and will they support me?
“Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.” - W. Clement Stone