Yet again I have been the victim of another universal conspiracy – something I’ve become pleasantly accustomed to. After writing yesterday about fear I had been thinking a lot about it and because of that it’s been showing up in very interesting ways. For example, today I was coaching a client who is absolutely incredible (as all of my clients are) and she was having a bit of an issue holding her level of confidence. Her good old pal doubt was paying her a visit and instead of slamming the door, my client had innocently and ignorantly let doubt in. She was saying things like “am I even cut out for this?”, “is this even a good idea?” It was hard to hear knowing how incredible, talented and successful she is and will continue to be (as long as she doesn’t buy in to this negative thinking!)
We spent time discussing strategies on how to counteract her negative thinking and feelings and by the time she left she was back on top – ready to take it all on again!
Later on, over my lunch, I picked up a book I’ve read a few times “The Power of Focus” and because I only had a few minutes I decided to open randomly to a page and read whatever was there. Well, wouldn’t you know it I opened right up to the chapter entitled “The Confidence Factor” – how fitting. The chapter begins with a great quote by Stan Smith which says:
“Experience tells you what to do; confidence allows you to do it.”
Now keep in mind here that it doesn’t say “your experience”, it says experience. Out there in the world there is a wealth of knowledge and experience based on millions of years of human being’s trial and error. Our job in life is to discover what it is that we are truly passionate about and spend the rest of our lives doing it. However, action, the act of doing, is something that requires confidence and we have to build our confidence in order for us to act. As I’ve discussed before nothing happens until you actually do something – it is the action step that is crucial.
Here’s some tips on building your confidence:
1. At the end of each day, journal, or write down all the things that you did really well. (Nothing negative)
2. Read, read, read empowering and uplifting books and articles about people who inspire you. People who have done the impossible, despite circumstances or situations. (Nelson Mandela, Helen Keller, Oprah, etc.)
3. Have an attitude of gratitude. (No matter how bad things get, you can ALWAYS find something to be grateful for. By doing this you change your vibration; you remove yourself from the low vibration where thoughts of “poor me” and “why doesn’t anything ever work out” live and raise your vibration to where opportunities and possibilities live just by finding one thing to feel thankful for.)
4. Build a safety net of support. (No one said you have to do it alone. Make sure you are surrounded by people who support you and believe in you. We ALL have ‘off’ or ‘down’ days and we all need someone else to remind us of how great we are once in a while.)
5. Set goals. (If you don’t know how to properly set goals, get your but to my upcoming seminar – you won’t regret it. It is our birthright to live in abundance! If you don’t presently have all that you want in your life – setting goals is the best way to change that!)