I never get tired of hearing the various perspectives on how to live an authentic, truthful, purpose driven, passion filled life. Don Miguel Ruiz in his book The Four Agreements recharged my batteries when it comes to this commitment. The commitment is one you make with yourself. We’ve all been told that we cannot control other people, yet, I don’t think we, as a culture, necessarily believe that. Even myself, knowing all that I know, still at times try to influence other people. In my case I wouldn’t say I’m trying to negatively affect people, but, at the end of the day, that doesn’t matter. What you’re saying in essence to someone when you try to influence them to change is “you’re not good enough”. When I think of it from that perspective it really hammers the point home.
I’ve heard the message before in a lot of different ways, but, it never ceases to raise my awareness level. The bottom line is that we must silence the critic that lives in our mind. Instead, we must cultivate the visionary that encourages us to be creative with our life. We must empower ourselves, love ourselves and accept ourselves. Only then are we able to extend the same truth to all whom we encounter in our lives. Living by the Four Agreements will open the door to a life of joy, love and truth.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
1. Be impecable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.