“The sun sets and rises each day, and it’s the same with the avenues in your life. See the beauty within each sunset in your life, and know that the sun will also rise again tomorrow.” – Doreen Virtue
I remember when I knew that it was time to leave my corporate job…..2 years later I quit. Why did it take me so long? Good question. At first it was because I truly didn’t know what else I could possibly do (fear), how would I pay my bills (fear), what CB would say (fear), what my parents would say (fear), what my colleagues would think of me (fear), blah, blah, blah. The real reason it took me 2 years, was because it took me that long to feel enough pain to wake up to the reality that – it was time to go.
It can be easy to ignore the signs, signals and clues that you’re being bombarded with when the pain isn’t too bad. Looking back, the cold I got every 2 months, the feeling in the pit of my stomach when I rolled over at 5:30am to see that I’d already missed 3 calls, the panic in my mind when I’d run 10, 20, 45 minutes late, the let down I’d feel when I lost an account and saw the reflection on my commission cheque, the dread that would begin Sunday mornings, knowing it was less than 24 hours before I’d start all over again – all signs that it was time to move on.
If you have a feeling that it’s time to go in any area of your life – here’s a few things I learned along my way….
1. Tell the truth – Not to anyone else – just to yourself. Looking back I know that I KNEW it was time to go, but, I was so afraid that I kept shoving the ‘beach ball’ (my knowing) back underneath the water. I consciously didn’t want to look at it, because I was afraid of the inevitable actions I would have to take. Ironically, when we tell ourselves the truth, in that moment a little space opens up in us. That space is like a planted seed and it starts to grow. The universe starts to adjust itself to reflect the reality of your truth! I actually had to DO very little in my reality once I fessed up to myself. Call it serendipity, flow, god, luck, whatever you want. What I know is that there was a FORCE working with and through me that was activated in that moment that I looked myself in the eyes and told myself the truth.
2. Write out your fears. FEAR can be a huge roadblock between you and your dreams, IF, you let it live inside your mind. When you write down your fears, you make them 3D and this process dissipates at least 80% of the bad feelings that fear brings up. By writing down your fear – you gain HUGE insight in to your inner world and by seeing what you’re afraid of, you can start to make 3D changes so that those fears are addressed and taken care of. You don’t want to deny your fear, and you don’t want to slip in to judging your fear (this just complicates things further). You simply want to KNOW your fear. And not unlike having a miscommunication with a good friend – when you get clear about where you went wrong, your new clarity will get you back on the road to actioning what you really want in your life instead of blocking yourself from it.
3. Notice the clues. As I mentioned there were many clues signalling me to notice that my life was not where I wanted it to be. BUT, I didn’t consciously notice them. I let my subconscious run my life and my habitual patterns were in the drivers seat. By becoming aware that there were clues trying to get my attention I started to notice them. At first I tried to justify and be logical, but, eventually I grew in to the understanding that the clues were not there to hurt me, but, instead to enhance the quality of my life.
If you have a little ‘niggly’ or a sense that it’s ‘time to go’ let me also say that sometimes this means it’s simply time to ‘change the dance’. It might not mean that you actually have to ‘leave’ anything other than leave behind your old way of operating that is no longer serving you.
Signs, signals and clues are in our life to act as guidance, bumper bars like in bowling, to make sure we ‘hit the target’ and reach our highest potential in this lifetime. Start with some truth talk and you’re life will begin to flow again, leading you like a river to the ocean – you will be back in alignment with YOU.
Questions and comments are always welcomed.
Lots of love!!