A question that comes up a lot is “how do I get rid of the nasty voice in my head?”
First of all, you don’t need to get rid of anything. That shift in perspective alone will give you more room to expand and explore. This ‘voice’, often labeled ego or fear based thinking is not some dirty part of yourself that you need to cut out and throw away. It’s so slippery, but if you step back for a moment you’ll see that the same fear based thinking is in the driver’s seat when you ask yourself ‘how can I get rid of you…?”
Thinking that there is something wrong with you, or that you are flawed in some way because of the ‘voices in your head’ is feedstock for more of the same. There you are stuck in the illusion that you need to be different in order to be loved, be worthy, be capable, be enough. That belief that says, as soon as I get rid of this voice in my head…..then I’ll be…
Be what? What exactly will you be when that happens?
Here’s the problem I have with this idea of ego eradication: it’s still based in fear.
Fear that until you get rid of the ego, the fear based thinking, the voices in your head – you’re doomed.
From all my teachers and studies the lesson that most resonates with me is this: watch your thoughts.
You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to get rid of anything. You just need to turn and look. Observe. Listen.
You are not your thoughts and when you start to watch them, you will know what I mean. As you begin to watch you will realize that there is you the observer, and then there are your thoughts – over there.
“To acquire knowledge, one must study;
but to acquire wisdom, one must observe.” – Marilyn Vos Savant